Friday, October 5, 2012

The Last First

We made it through September. Last month was a time of celebration, reflection and bittersweet moments. Jax turned one on September 13th. A day a year ago we weren't even sure we would be celebrating. He is our last baby. His birthday will be the last first birthday we will celebrate in our family.

The first birthday is one that is anticipated and usually celebrated with grandeur. Over the last six months I struggled with what to do for Jax's birthday. I questioned if I should even have a party at all. It was hard not to focus on all the milestones Jax had not reached. I wondered what is the point in celebrating because this is not the life I want for us or my son. I felt as if I had nothing to celebrate. But once again after soul searching and putting myself back in check I realized that I do have a reason to be thankful. It may not be the things I thought we would be celebrating for Jax but we had a reason to celebrate none the less. We have a son. A beautiful GIFT from God. We weren't able to celebrate lots of milestones reached but we were able to celebrate his life. To say living with a child with special needs is difficult is an understatement. It is so hard at times to describe to someone what it is like and how it feels. I came across a woman's blog one day and she shared a story about a woman's description of living life with a special needs child. The story, Welcome To Holland, brought tears to my eyes, and really was the reason I started looking at our situation in a different way. Does it mean I don't have the negative thoughts and self pity at times, absolutely not. But it did, however, shed some light on my perspective.

Back to birthday stuff. I LOVE planning parties and was so excited to finally plan a boy party! You may have seen pictures posted on facebook, but I decided to have a "Little Monsters" party for our little monster, Jax! If you have ever met Jax, you will agree that he is so SWEET and LOVABLE. You can't help but want to snuggle him and kiss his chunky cheeks. He can also be a down right stinker at times as well. So the theme felt like it fit not to mention it was so much fun to plan. The pictures speak for themselves.




Hope you enjoyed looking at some of the pictures from Jax's Party. There were several more I wanted to share but for some reason blogger is not uploading them correctly.

Jax had his one year well visit last week. I am happy to report that he is FINALLY registering on the growth chart for his weight. He is at the 5% for his weight at 19 lbs; still small but we will take it. As for his height and head circumference they are still not registering on the chart but he continues to grow and make his own curve. He is now 27 inches long.

Thank you to everyone who stops to read our blog and keep up with Jax's progress. Every time I hear about someone reading I am thankful that there are those of you who truly care.

For my sweet Jax, if you ever are able to read these entries one day remember that you are loved!